WORLD OF RAWR

So, during the time I went to New York from June 26th till July 3rd, I met with a few people and had a lot of fun. Much of it was only semi-planned, but there were a few visits I did plan. Namely, Rick, Nick, Anthony, and Rob.

This entry is about Rob.

For months previous to our meeting, there were several hours - per day - of discussion about what favorite moves were, what our comfort zones were, how we felt about a number of topics on many levels. It was interesting and soon we formed a plan to meet during my visit. The idea would be to meet up for a meal or something and chat, then wrestle or what not if we felt comfortable around each other, and so on. Normal stuff, right?

Here's what happened: when I got there I called and/or texted every morning, every afternoon, and every evening for each day of my visit except the last one. None of these were returned. At all.

I figured that was the end of things; if you don't like someone, a complete halt to communication is one good way to make that point.

Then Monday happened. They called and asked me how things had been. After a while, I brought up the trip and how the communication went. They're response was that they thought I might end up spending the night at their house and felt uncomfortable with that idea. While we had discussed this, I mentioned I'd be with family in the area and had no problem with visiting him during the day or early evening and just crashing with family in the evening.

In short, the issue was not an issue.

I'm conflicted about how to feel, really. I'm 20% "I should try to be forgiving" and 80% "Nah, bruh..." The really annoying thing was the ease with which anything could have been said or sent or messaged like, "Hey, let's do _____." or "I'm free at _____" or anything like that.

In sum: good communication saves lives (and much frustration). Please do that. Also, if you don't talk to someone for nearly a month and a half after failing to meet up with them after making whatever plan for however long, unless you have a really good reason for doing so, you'd probably do well to apologize without excuses and move along.

/rant