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Yeah there are a lot of guys on here whose egos just can't handle rejection. Free association and consent matter and no one is entitled to anyone else's time or attention (especially a complete stranger) simply because they saw or read something that they found interesting or arousing, but good luck trying to tell that to some of the entitled narcissists on the internet.

You did nothing wrong, and while blocking you was a petty and impotent attempt to get back at you, at least they saved you the trouble of wasting a block on them.

Whilst it's nice if you get a reply of 'no thanks' it should not be expected. A non-reply is a reply and should be respected.

Like the first reply, you are not at fault here. You have done nothing wrong.

Nossa! Que cara sem noção! Mas não esquenta... deixa ele passar vontade. Os usuários do site te conhecem e sabem que você é gente boa e um ótimo lutador :)

Interesting discussion … is a non-reply a reply in itself? I tend not to aggree. You see lots of people these days engaging in intense conversations and plans with others and then not answering /ghosting you all of a sudden without an explanation ( probably more common amongst younger guys) It all depends of the sequence of exchanges but I think a response like ‘you know what. Based on …<bla-bla-bla> it looks like we are not a match and probably won’t meet. It does not cost much and clarifies.
Now to your point Icedwrest not answering does not justify any ‘revenge’ flagging at all.
Maybe the end point is showing respect to others and clarifying as much as possible, even in the case of no interest?

I might agree with FrBoxer if there had been a conversation. But there was never anything to begin with. That's a damn clear sign of disinterest and should be understood as such

Although I sympathize with your plight, I'm approaching it from the other side. A non-reply is NOT a reply. A simple click of "Mark This Conversation Replied" would have done the trick. If someone takes it upon themselves to initiate a conversation with me, I will at least acknowledge it. If you don't want to hook up with a wrestler, all you have to do is send them a simple reply: "Thanks for your interest, but I don't think we would be a good match." Period.

That being said - they should not have blacklisted you as "Unreliable/No Show." You didn't agree to a match, so I would ask the moderators here to remove it. (I did that with one guy after he flagged me for being "uncivil" even though we never met in person. The flag was removed. But I digress.)

Bottom line - follow the golden rule. Do to others as you would have them do to you.

Aggree a 100% with you tuffgrappler58! Behave with others as you would like them to behave with you. Personally I still find the silent response as pretty abrasive.. but it is possibly a matter of cultural and personal sensitivity..

As Mancunian said below — I am not necessarily saying I was not abrasive by not replying (though, as you said, there is an element of personal sensitivity).

But the flag has a different purpose altogether.

You also mention that people should behave the way they expect others to. And I do that. I actually *don’t* expect replies either when I message people — if they don’t, the message is very clear to me, and I just move on.

I think the issue here isn't the fact no reply was made, it was more the childish no show/unreliable stamp which is reserved for an agreed meet. Not the fact someone didn't reply to a message.

It happens a lot on this site. The good news is that you can report the member to the admin and they will likely suspend his account for abuse of the flagging system and they’ll also remove the abuse flag from your profile.

Unfortunately admin decided to do nothing on the argument that they don’t have the time to investigate the cases.

I am inclined to drop the website entirely after that.

It's frustrating but it's a risk versus reward situation. I've been fortunate to have had enough positive experiences to more than compensate for the annoying ones.

I try to reply to anyone that sends me a message because I appreciate their interest even if I am not. I have learned to accept non replies as a no interest so I just leave him alone. You can always tell he read your messages too. I had a guy once I sent a message to and he blocked me...never answered which I found to be rude but there are all kinds on this site

As a follow-up to the story, admin has told me they cannot fix this flag, and that I have to sort of deal with it on the basis that my positive recommendations would outweigh this anomaly.

As a matter of principle, this is just not a satisfactory solution, which brings me to my own possible resolutions for this:

- I’ll simply be blocking anyone I am not interested in. No more accepting spams

- I may look for some alternative website where I may have better luck/treatment. Once I have a platform, it’s time to go.

Ignore the flag, and press on. Yes, it's frustrating but there are better people on the site for you to meet up with. Don't dump the site over one instance of admin not fixing it.

A bit annoying having to deal with the bias this flag is going to cause, however. :/

i agree it's not satisfactory. admin should be able to review the messages between you and take action accordingly. but please don't give up on meetfighters, it's by far the best community of its kind and you're obviously a valued member here

I'm amazed by the replies, "Yeah, flagging you was not the right thing to do, but...". There is no 'but". That guy is a bag of dicks. You're not required to reply to an unsolicited message any more than you are to answer the door when an unwanted visitor drops by. It's not complicated: if you message someone and they don't reply, they don't want to meet you. It happens to all of us . Take a hint and move on.

1. Thanks for the contact but I don't see a match.
2. No Interest.
3. One more time = Block

I've changed it
1 No interest
2 Block

Some guys don't get it!

Name the cretin! I bet they have done it to others.

If you check my profile, you’ll see who flagged me.

I’m not seeing that your profile was flagged. Am I missing something?

I attached an image. Hope that helps.

I think this is a no win scenario. I have replied "not interested" and just not replied at all. Either way I have had responses where people get mad.

While I realize everyone reacts differently to things…and not saying u were…but I find it rude not to reply to someone’s message.

Whether ur interested or not, the simple and polite thing to do was just to say “Thanks but I’m not interested” and that would be that. I have received messages like that and I thank them for replying and wish them good luck.

Now if he persists, then I would ignore him and not reply.

Imo, not replying is not a reply.

I think he went OVERBOARD reporting u as unreliable and all that. He went too far.

I reply to all people that take the time to send me a message. Until they give me reason not to. This is just my personal opinion

Yeah, you did nothing wrong. I like that wrestlers can be flagged and blocked if being disrespectful however, it isn't perfect and the system can be abused. I just got blocked by a guy who asked for a pic several months after already asking for one. When I put that in a reply, he blocked me. Clearly they have something to hide.